Separateness
i
you
us
them
those people
wouldn’t it be lovely
if one could
live
in a constant state
of we?
some of the most
commonplace
words
can be some of the biggest
dividers
they
what if there was
no they?
what if there
was only
us?
if words could be seen
as they floated out
of our mouths
would we feel no
shame
as they passed beyond
our lips?
if we were to string
our words
on a communal clothesline
would we feel proud
as our thoughts
flapped in the
breeze?
-Marilyn Maciel
It is odd how we create so much separateness in our lives in the concept of me and you. If I am not happy it is because YOU are annoying me…or… YOU are not happy, I wonder what I did? And although I think I have made big strides in refraining from the blaming of others and the blaming of self…it still creeps in. The difference is now I notice. Tonight I had an experience with R where he could sense that my energy was off and so he asked me what was up. I shared with him my stress around feeling judged by other parents as I return to school tomorrow after an incident that happened on Friday. He had lots to say on the subject and I was irritated. As I sat in the shower with the hot water beating on my neck I wondered why I was so irritated with him, I realized it wasn’t him at all. I just wanted to be heard. I wasn’t ready to hear all his thoughts on the subject. So in the spirit of wholeness, and the releasing of the duality of him and me, my irritation dissolved and I was able to honor the space that resides in all of us that sometimes just wants to be heard. And as for the parents that I will see tomorrow morning… peace be with them. I can handle the judgments and gossip because I will continue to live in the truth. Powerful people often get a bad rap. What’s up with that?
